Wednesday, November 01, 2006

Outsiders

In "And Those Who Don't" Esperanza discusses how outsiders see her neighborhood and how she reacts to being an outsider. Write about your experience(s) with outsiders or as an outsider. Consider the new kids at school, newcomers to the neighborhood, visitors from the neighborhood or country. What people, situations, or customs are difficult to understand? Choose words that capture the emotions of being an outsider.

19 Comments:

Blogger Trent W said...

Esperanza, tells those who are from "outside" there so to speak, are dumb and lost and fear those who are now their neighbors. And then she also says, she will feel the same way if it happened to her, and it has happened to her before.
One thing that hard to comprehend, about "outsiders" are the low lives that some how wonder(that is rent) into the neighborhood townhouses. They came from such different places, that make you wonder, are all the people like that there? Such trailer-trash, pardon my language, hanging out with others like them. Somehow, our family befriends them and well their oddities just turn us the other way, the things they do and the stupidity of them. You always wonder how someone can be that ignorant. In the chapter when Eperanza says they are stupid we fill the same way. But at the beginning with, having the outsiders afraid, here it's more vice versa. I mean your not sure what this person, or that person it capable of doing. I'm not saying my neighborhood is bad or anything, just some of the people are creep, and to us odd, they are the outsiders.

4:15 PM  
Blogger Abby S. said...

I have been an outsider many times and i know exactly how it feels to be alone. I have transfered to at least 5 different schools and everytime i would come home and cry. It wasn't the fact that i was scared but the fact that i knew no one and i got the "new girl" look and it intimidated me. I always felt better on the second day because i made at least one friend, and i think it was because i talk a lot and thats a way people get to know me. So whenever there is a new person in our school i always try and talk to them because i know exactly how it feels to be in thier shoes. Its not a good feeling. I remember my first day at my elemetry school in third grade was the worst. I felt like everyone was staring at me. I thought I had something on my face but it was just my face. I was terrified. Everyone stared me own like i was piece of meat. I cried harder the ever that day. I never wanted to go back. Ever! But i did and I made friends that i have to this day. I think that you have to face your fears and just push through the day and even if its horrible, you have to go back and do it again. Im not scared anymore to go to a new school. I just get the "frogs in my stomach" feeling. Its a great feeling.

5:05 PM  
Blogger mitch w said...

As an outsider you look in and see so much different than what you are used to. It is a feeling like do I really belong here? or what am I supposed to do? These feelings come because when a person is new they have no previous experience. For example when you come to a new school you are scared and have no friends. This is not comforting and until you can blend in you are stuck out on a limb with no one beside you.

On the other hand when an outsider comes in to your life they have to make the effort to blend in. This can be hard because when a group of people are already very close their “circle of trust” is hard to break in to. But when it is broken the people finally take you in as one of them.

5:53 PM  
Blogger nick z said...

In this vignette Esperanza doesn’t like the fact that some people not from her nationhood (outsiders) are afraid of their surroundings. But when she is an outsider herself she gets scared to. This is a feeling I get all the time. Even some times when I'm in a different part of the school. It's manly the fact of thinking I'm excluded or different. Like if I go to a place downtown or just far away I'm a lot shyer that I used to be. Sure I'll try to make friends and eventually I will but otherwise it's pretty tough.

6:08 PM  
Blogger Brett-R said...

I went to Mexico about a year back and everything there was totally different. They all knew I was different, and from the little spanish I knew,I was sure they were making fun of me. I didn't quite understand how they lived from day to day. They have to bargain and use money wisely. I was so lost.

6:28 PM  
Blogger Ashleigh H. said...

Mostly all of my family members live in El Paso, Texas. It's a little town right on the border of Warez, Mexico. It is probably one of the most poor parts of Texas. The whole town seems to stare at me right as I walk off of the airplane and step foot into Texas. It's almost like bitting down into an icecream cone and getting chills all around your body because it was so cold. Some people in El Paso live in extreame poverty. My Grandma's house is tarring apart on the inside and outside. Kids in the neighborhood barely have enough money to buy new shoes. When I walk into stores in Texas, it's like a totally different origin than I'm used to. A lot of people that live there are Hispanics so they don't have as much things to be greatful for.

In Colorado, when my Grandma comes to visit, she probably feels the same icecream cone feeling. She doesn't know what exactly to expect other than what she already knows.

Going into someplace new is probably one of the toughest things to master. I don't think that i could ever go and do the whole "new kid" deal. I don't think that I'm strong enough for that kind of treatment.

6:33 PM  
Blogger TiffanyV said...

I always feel bad for people that are outsiders, because I know I was an outsider too. I moved schools only two times in me lifetime, one in fourth grade and one to high school. I was excited to meet everyone new in high school but at the same time had a horrible feeling in my stomach. I was scared and I didn’t know anyone going to Ahs, all my friends and everyone I knew went to Hrhs. It’s hard to be in a new environment with new people but you got to suck it up. Deal with it!

6:50 PM  
Blogger casey o said...

Outsiders are people that are not that popular and don’t have many friends. It is sad to see a new kid at school, an outsider, sitting there alone eating lunch, but you know that if you go up and talk to them you might be looked at differently and could loose your friends. When people are new to an area, they don’t know what the cool crowd is and sometimes get in the wrong one, ones that many people don’t like. People look at you like your in a fish bowl. They judge you without even knowing who you really are, just by looking at your house and what clothes you wear. This is what is happening to Ezperanza in the story. Foreign people are the worst outside people. They don’t even know what people are saying, they are just there going for a ride. We a outsiders when we go to a foreign country. They talk and laugh as if mocking us, we don’t know what they are saying. Outsiders should be treated no differently than anyone else, unfortunately that is not the case in the world.

8:12 PM  
Blogger Quinlan M. said...

Everybody is an outsider to somebody else, and it's not a comfortable feeling at all. You feel as if you are the odd one when you walk past, and they feel the same way when they walk past you and your friends. Recently new neighbors moved in next door. Whenever new neighbors move in we always say "hello" and speak to them. They are our friends now; my father and theirs use each other’s lawn equipment and what not. My mother and my brother go with theirs and their children to theme parks. I don’t fit in with them well though because of my age. At first I thought they were scared, because they would always walk to their car very fast and into their house very fast, and never come out. When you are an outsider you feel as if all eyes are upon you at all times, and you can tell that people are whispering behind your back. It is like "standing up when everybody else is sitting down".

8:38 PM  
Blogger Amy w. said...

I have experienced being an "outsider" before for example when i traveled to mexico one time i went shopping in a little flea market type place and the whole time i could feel people's eyes just staring me down

Another scenario is being a teenager around a bunch of adults because they automatically think i am up to something. Feeling like and outsider makes you feel alone,sad and volnurable which i hate feeling.I hate the fake un compfortbale smilesor evil glares one recieves when they stand out of a crowd.

8:59 PM  
Blogger Kiersten P said...

I volunteered to go work at a soup kitchen a few years ago. I wasn’t really sure about what I was going to be doing or what kind of people I would be working with. I had nicer clothes on that day to look professional, but when I got to the place we were serving meals I was really surprised to see al the people that had their belongings right there with them. Some of them came only with the clothes on their back. I felt really out of place that day and I’m sure they did too. It really made me think about just how much I take for granted everyday and how there are people way less fortunate than me. But, while I was there I did talk to some of the families visiting and they aren’t bad people or anything. Some of them were just having a hard time in life and needed financial help. Everyone has their downfalls.

9:13 PM  
Blogger Kiersten P said...

I volunteered to go work at a soup kitchen a few years ago. I wasn’t really sure about what I was going to be doing or what kind of people I would be working with. I had nicer clothes on that day to look professional, but when I got to the place we were serving meals I was really surprised to see al the people that had their belongings right there with them. Some of them came only with the clothes on their back. I felt really out of place that day and I’m sure they did too. It really made me think about just how much I take for granted everyday and how there are people way less fortunate than me. But, while I was there I did talk to some of the families visiting and they aren’t bad people or anything. Some of them were just having a hard time in life and needed financial help. Everyone has their downfalls.

9:13 PM  
Blogger Courtney W. said...

Being an “outsider” is one to the hardest roadblocks in life to get past. I remember moving from the neighborhood that I had grown to love when I was in fifth grade. My family moved from Aurora to Centennial, and it was a huge change in my life. I didn’t know anyone in my new neighborhood, and no one knew me or my family. The neighbors eventually came over and introduced themselves, and now my neighborhood is a real home. One of the hardest times of being an outsider for me was when I was going into middle school. All the kids that I had gone to elementary school with were in a different district than I was in, and they all went to West Middle School, while I was headed for Powell Middle School. I only knew a few people, and everyone else had their own circle of friends, friends that I didn’t belong with, or would fit in with. It was very intimidating, saddening, and frustrating for me the first few weeks. I didn’t feel like I would ever meet someone that I wanted to get to know, and I was the only outsider. In a class, where if someone is new, they definitely could use an extra friend, so my friends and I go over to them and all introduce ourselves, and help them out.

10:02 PM  
Blogger Chelsea S said...

As hard as it may seem the most outgoing people can be "outsiders" and feel uncomfortable in their environment. Esperanza explains this feeling in "Those Who Don't". I think that once in everyone's lives they feel out of place or in the wrong place. Sometimes it's hard to ajust to your surroundings.

10:53 PM  
Blogger Aaron M. said...

Someone who is an outsider, is looking from the outside in. Like a new student on there first day. There all alone, and there not acclimated to there new surroundings. I myself as well have first hand experience at being an outsider on my first day of school. For the second through sixth grade I was homeschooled. For more than half of the time I home schooled I only had friends in organizations and activities I did. In seventh grade when I finally went to a public shcool. Onthe first day I got to experience being an outsider, everything was different, and I had to become comfortablewith the new learing enviroment with alot of kids. Like I found out being an, "outsider," isn't easy for anyone to endure. In the vignette, Outsiders,Esperanza disusses the outsiders in her neighborhood. And how they were affraid of the people on Mango street. Like she says they are stupid for being affraid. Becuase all the have to do is give the small communitl a chance and work towards becoming acclimated. As a new student would on there first day.

11:46 PM  
Blogger Bri R said...

When Sarah and her family first moved in here, i thought they were all crazy, that they lived in a madhouse. Her family smoked, cursed, screamed at each other, and drove real fast down our street. I was scared out of my mind to ever go over there, much less make eye contact with any of them. They were outsiders and I pictured them staying that way until they moved to terrorize the next neighborhood. One day I was so bored I could've seen an airplane and thought it was exciting, so I gathered up every once of courage I had and marched across the street. I asked the man out front very timidly if Sarah was home and he went and got her. When she came outside she looked at me very funny like I was the outsider. I took a deep breath and asked if she wanted to hang out. She did. And ever since that day we have been best friends. I think that "outsiders" should be given a chance, because you might find out that they're not all that different from you.

6:08 PM  
Blogger Bri R said...

Mrs. Comp, I know my blog was late, and i don't mind if you don't give me credit for it, but I wanted to do it anyway, so yeah thanks.

6:09 PM  
Blogger KYLES said...

I have had times where I've felt like an outsider, like when i goto a patry with a friend and i don't know anybody else, or if I have to give a presentation to a large group. I don't really think I'm anti-social, I'm just not real friendly, and i don't meet people very well. I don't really get why when you talk to some people they give the person next to them the "LOOK" when they think you're not watching, it's as if they think they're better than you, and it makes you feel like crap. I also feel uncomfortable when I meet people with a very different life-style than mine, I'm always afraid I'll do something to insult them. I pretty much accept people for who they are as long as they're good people who don't put on faces of hand out BS. These are the kind of people I can get close to. I may not have very many friends but I have good ones. They accept me for me and I accept them for them.

6:32 PM  
Blogger Justin J. said...

Having an outsider or being an outsider can be fairly akward. I totaly understand how Esperanza feels. From when I was 6 to 13 I have experianced being and outsider. From Dallas i moved to Toronto. Now thats weird going to Canada from America and experiancing differences in schools. Then i moved back to Dallas. After a half a year there i moved to Boston. That was the same experiance that was in Canada. Then i moved here in clorado. We lived here for a couple years then moved to Washington D.C. for a few months then came back here in Colorado and decided to settle here because we loved it. Now, at the end of may I am moving back to Dallas permenatly. If i can get my grades up and show some effort i will probly move to Des Moines,Iowa and live with a other family to play hockey for the rest of my highschool life. From having experiances of being an outsider, i totaly know how Ensperanza feels about outsiders since ive bn one my whole life.

8:29 PM  

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